Educated on Girl and Boy Actions

I watched a How to Kill a Mockingbird last night with my boss and noticed a couple of things that we have been discussing in class and reading about in the book " Dude your a Fag". Just to give you a brief back ground about the movie, the movie happens way back in 40s or 50s not that sure on time period and focuses on the topic of race and the judicial system. Funny how things haven't change yet dealing with equal rights of minorities. I focused on a main character in the movie a girl named Scout. Her and her brother lived with their father and called him by his first name and weren't forced to act like the stereotypes of a boy and girl. Scout was allowed to play with her brother and friends and mostly lead the adventures.Scout wasn't forced to until school time to wear a dress and present herself  as a girl by wearing dresses to state that she was a girl. Still with her outer appearance stating that she was a typical young girl she acted like a typical boy picking fights and speaking her mind at all times. Scouts father still called her by her nick name throughout the whole movie which gave the audience a blank slate that she couldn't really be judge because she wasn't acting out of the norm her father had set for her as a girl. Scout did show that she would be considered a typical tomboy in the 21century and freedom to express herself so openly like she does in the movie wouldn't not be allowed outside the house. Her ways of caring herself are in the ways of a stereotyped young man. She shows the aggression through her beating up classmates, dressing like a boy would dress, seeking adventure with other boys, staying out late, and having a voice that is actually listened to by her community.
All the things that were listed that Scout had the freedom to do is something that I feel women feel not worthy to embrace. Has the value of a women been decreased by the woman? This is a question that I ask daily before speaking to young men, men, or older women. Scout has inspired me that everyone has a voice and a story so don't prejudge a persons values or morals just by the way they dress. ____

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Violence Between The Walls

So I will share my story with the world today about my experience with domestic violence . After reading my class articles and class on Thursday reality hit me hard that i truly have been in an abusive relationship. I just thought my relationship was a little difficult because we lived together and I was in school, worked,and traveled a lot. However with seeing the video that featured Rhianna, expressing the battle that she and Chris Brown are still going through showed me my past and the exact thing that I was apart of not so long ago. I tried not to cry so tears pilled up in my throat and I swallowed all of my emotions just right after the lights were turned on. I couldn't believe that was an example of Domestic Violence and that I played a role as the victim and attacker.(Lind, 264) Just like the video shows it becomes an addiction that both people can't really escape to until both of them get really hurt or life separates the two. For my case life really did a slow but fast separation of us that allowed me to gain a sense of control back from such a strong addiction. I know that i don't like the feeling of physical pain such as pulling off a band-aid or a cut i turn into a baby but I had been attracted to mental games that ended up with me having more than physical abuse. I'm telling this story to allow people to understand that people that love playing mental games have a tendency to get addicted to Domestic Violence. I don't want to admit but somehow through the media I had become descentized to the violence that was shown and accepted by society. Its stated in Gendered Lives

that exposure to sexual violence through media is linked to greater tolerance, or even approval, of violence.

I have realized that sometimes us labeling things helps get people out of situations or helps describes what they went through

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Diamond In The Rough

I was apart of this organization and this really needs to be implemented in all counties then states. Diamond In The Rough

Media's spin on your life

My group presented last week and the reading was pretty good but seemed to be the same message that we have been covering this whole semester in terms of the power that Big D discourse has on consumer’s lives. We really can't escape the Big D institutions because we are the ones that vote or give money to the people that tell us how to behave and what will be the standard for all to follow.  Our focus last week went more into detail on the messages that are repeatedly shown to us through Ads where they are on television, magazines, radio, and internet. The under-representation of women and minorities, portrayals of men and relationships that once existed between man and woman have slowly evolved over time.
Women are portrayed in Ads as Bitches or Hotties while men are portrayed as Buddies or Losers. Most advertisement paints a picture that it’s now about individualism and capturing your dreams while having friends but not getting tied down so much with committed relationships that may hold you back from achieving your dreams. In the reading by Messner and Montez de Oca they pointed out that how men are portrayed still makes them a victim even if they are made to look like are able to control what is happening in the ads. My question is who is really controlling the Big D institutions if everyone stands behind the victim line? Video games, movies, and clearly Ads have numbed us to violence, abuse, love, relationship, and clear communication.
A 1950s Budweiser commercial was shown during discussion Thursday, the focus of the add was still a hottie but fully dressed and how she was enjoying the moment with her husband. They were enjoying their moment together and it was made a little better with a Budweiser. Agenda Setting for Ads have changed dramatically from family orientated to individualism I want to set focus on the Little D discourse. Minorities and Majorities started to be motivated to succeed in their careers and concentrate on getting more money for stability for their lives.  What success has been measured by has changed from the pursuit of happiness to the chase after money.  The media has portrayed that the outside of the person matters most than what a person feels or their health. Materialistic Nation is what America has become and in Economics we have become the Big Fat Pig that consumes and produces waste products.
Who am I? What defines me? I read a book called A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle it addresses that we will continue to try to define ourselves with material to until we actually pause long enough to listen to ourselves and understand that we can’t be fully happy with things that don’t last forever or doesn’t grow with us. I had a wakeup call prior to beginning college and continue to pinch myself every now and then to remember that now is all I have make those moments count by sharing your time with people that have matter. I clearly typed that sentence correctly, people that have matter, most people take up matter but they themselves have not found the matter within to have a purpose in the world.
EVERYONE make sure you are MATTER and that you MATTER!!:)

Mask=Power

I watched a How to Kill a Mockingbird last night with my boss and noticed a couple of things that we have been discussing in class and reading about in the book Dude You’re a Fag. Just to give you a brief back ground about the movie, the movie happens way back in 40s or 50s not that sure on time period and focuses on the topic of race and the judicial system. It amazes me how things haven't changed yet for minorities fighting equal rights of. I focused on a main character in the movie a girl named Scout. She took a stand and redefined girlhood as tough and powerful. (Pascoe, 117) Her and her brother lived with their father and called him by his first name and weren't forced to act like the stereotypes of a boy and girl. Scout was allowed to play with her brother and friends and mostly lead the adventures. Scout wasn't forced to until school time to wear a dress and present herself as a girl by wearing dresses to state that she was a girl. Still with her outer appearance stating that she was a typical young girl she acted like a typical boy picking fights and speaking her mind at all times. Scouts father still called her by her nick name throughout the whole movie which gave the audience a blank slate that she couldn't really be judge because she wasn't acting out of the norm her father had set for her as a girl. Scout did show that she would be considered a typical tomboy in the 21century. Freedom to express a young girl’s opinion so openly like Scout does in the movie wouldn't be allowed outside the house. Her ways of caring herself are in the ways of a stereotyped young man. In Chapter 5 on pg 117 just states the reason why Scout was excepted to until she was suppose to act like a girl when she went to school. Scout’s brother also helps reinforce her when she was at school and also her dad by saying she would get a spanking for acting out of character at school.  She shows the aggression through her beating up classmates, dressing like a boy would dress, seeking adventure with other boys, staying out late, and having a voice that is actually listened to by her community. 

All the things that were listed that Scout had the freedom to do something that I feel women feel not worthy to embrace. Has the value of a women been decreased by the woman? This is a question that I ask daily before speaking to young men, men, or older women. Scout has inspired me that everyone has a voice and stories to tell so don't prejudge a person’s values or morals just by the way they dress. The main thing that set Scout apart when she spoke out and people listened was her attire. She grabbed her audience that she wanted to change (mainly men) by her looking more like them. (Pascoe, 121)